Stop blaming. Start taking responsibility.

     This is one of the hardest things to figure out and I've come across a lot of great advice, I'll start by sharing two resources.   1) recreate your life will walk you through how to eliminate your limiting beliefs and they give you free access to eliminating at least one belief.  For example, we tend to think other people and circumstances "make" us feel a certain way.  As hard as it is to believe, WE are the ones responsible for how we feel and nothing and no one else has the power to make you feel anything.  Events are just events, the meaning we give those events decides whether they are "good" or "bad" but they have no meaning until we give them one.  We give them meaning based on our beliefs, both conscious and subconscious.  Change a belief, or your perspective, and you change an event's meaning.

I was a big old blamer for most of my life, it's what many of us do, it's socially acceptable, and even now I catch myself in mid or post-blame.   I keep working on it though, because how I act, react and feel are my responsibility.  We cannot control other people or circumstances,  as much as you wish they would change, you can only change yourself.  Change your perspective, change your capacity for love, change your ability to adapt, stop pushing so hard against what you don't like and start taking consistent action towards what you want instead.
2) A technique I have used and continue to use is called tapping.   You tap on specific acupuncture points while saying a "script".  You can make up your own or you can find scripts for various topics on the Internet.  Tapping helped me when I was feeling overwhelmed, it helped decrease my pain, it helped me take more action on a daily basis and it helps keep me focused on whatever my current goal may be.  As luck would have it the Tapping World Summit 2012 is starting today Monday May 7th at 8pm EST and it's FREE, but you do have to sign up to get access to the audios.  Last year I followed the Summit and my results were dramatic.  To learn more about tapping and the research behind it click here http://thetappingsolution.com/.
Below is a trailer for the DVD "Try it on Everything"  if this is the first time you're being introduced to this it may look weird, you may feel silly trying it, but it can help and it's worth feeling silly, I promise.  I hope these two resources help you as much as they've helped me.